Losing My Mother, Finding Myself
A year ago I lost my mother. Kindred Spirits magazine published an article I wrote about my journey. You can read it here.
Grieving is, of course, a personal process for each of us, but losing someone we love is an inevitable part of being human. The choice each of us must make is to either sadly cling to "what was" wishing we still had the relationship, or to celebrate the relationship and what we learned from being in that relationship. There is no right or wrong way to go through this. Each emotion that rises to the surface is what must be felt and experienced.....as long as we don't lose ourselves along the way.
My friend, Sara, told me after reading my article that she now understood that whatever emotions are experienced as you grieve are perfectly ok. We are all losing parents, friends, children and/or pets during this time of transformation, and it can be comforting to know that our individual ways of grieving are all ok.
The surprise for me–the gift in grieving– was in how much of myself I found as I allowed myself to deeply feel everything I needed to feel about my loss.
There are important clues for each of us, and the message I would like to share is to trust yourself and what you feel. It is all real, and it is all important. Emotions truly are signposts to point us in the direction of balance and growth.
I trust my article will support your own process of dealing with loss and deepening your understanding of yourself.
As a side note, I was nominated for the Kindred Spirits Magazine Mind-Body-Spirit Writer of the Year, an honor that is determined by vote. If you
have not yet voted and would like to vote for me, you may do so here or you can send a vote via email to email@example.com with KS Awards in the subject line. The voting closes on 30 June.
Thank you for your support, and I hope you enjoy my article!
*Photo credit to Simon Rae @ Unsplash